Twenty Three Things I’ve Learned in 23 Years

Most who know me, would know that this year has been absolutely ridiculous. Each social dimension has come with it’s highs and lows – from dating to uni and everything in between. It’s been crazy, tiring and so busy – but I love it. What would our existence be if we didn’t live and learn?

Being a girl who’s in her 24th year of life – I’ve been venturing in early adulthood and my brain should be nearing it’s full development by now. So here’s hoping a few life lessons have stuck by me..

1. Go easy on yourself, be enough of a self-critic to succeed but take it easy and recognise your efforts.
2. Listen and celebrate appraisal. Appreciate kinds words and gestures of others – be modest but accept compliments.
3. Being good at something doesn’t give you permission to be arrogant. Always be humble and don’t forget that there was once a time where you knew little to nothing too.
4. Ask and listen to feedback – the fact that they’re telling you means they care, and most importantly it’ll help you grow.
5. There is nothing wrong with making sacrifices to reach your long term goals, even if others don’t understand it. You do you.
6. Be honest and transparent. Don’t portray to be anything other than yourself – it’s tiring. It’s also refreshing how things fall into place the more you grow into your own skin.
7. Enjoy meeting new people! Go out, date , make new friends. Just make sure you take your morals and decency with you.
8. Be graceful and respectful when things don’t go you way. We aren’t meant to always get what we want.
9. Intelligence > Appearances. Kudos if you’re jacked with a six-pack; but that alone isn’t quite a make or break.
10. It’s okay to outgrow people. Just don’t be a dick about it. You’re never better than anyone; we’re inevitably always changing.
11. Don’t generalise people (especially men). Reflect on your social playground of where you meet people.
12. Someone is always jealous about something. Don’t talk yourself down for the emotional reassurance of others – it’s up to them to deal with their own insecurities.
13. Grieve as long as you need to – for people who you are no longer close to. Live and let go.
14. You can keep up with social media without the validation of others. They do not need to be correlated in any way. It’s a choice you make.
15. Be forward, you have nothing to lose.
16. Embracing stillness is so self-centering and therapeutic.
17. A person in front of you should always take priority over a message on your phone.
18. Everyone has different priorities – focus on your own.
19. Try new things and gain new skills – surely your 20’s are the time for this?
20. Health goes so much further than working out.
21. You get what you put in – this also applies to the type of people you surround yourself with.
22. There is nothing wrong with following a meal of chicken and broccoli with ice cream and cookies.
23. Finally.. be less judgemental. Everyone has their own story.

Heres to the next 12 months 🍾 I already know it’ll be filled with so much change.. lets do it!